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How To Save A Relationship – 5 Simple Steps

If you want to save your relationship, you gotta take some steps. I’m going to show you 5 simple steps to save your relationship here…

And I want you to notice that I said five SIMPLE steps – not EASY steps.

I’m not going to kid you – anytime a relationship is in jeopardy, it’s going to require you to stretch and grow as a person. Because relationships are themselves the best kind of self-growth.

But – if you know what you’re doing, and you’ve got your trusty Carlos C. here to guide you – you’ll never make a wrong step.

Just follow my road map back into his heart…

Let’s get your romance back on with –

Step 1: Get Your Truth Serum Ready!

I’m guessing that if you’ve read any relationship book, you probably know by now that communication is THE most important part of any relationship. It’s probably the most cliché bit of advice I can give you.

But let me tell you WHICH communication you should focus on…

Honesty.

Honesty is highly undervalued these days. We don’t seem to expect ANYONE to be honest anymore. I could blame Richard Nixon for destroying our trust, but I’ll just tell you right now that we need a major infusion of honesty in our world – STAT!

When it comes to relationships, you have to be willing to both TELL the truth, as well as SEEK the truth.

Hey, I’ll be the first to admit – it’s not easy.

In a world that rarely gives us any loving strokes, asking someone to tell you the uncomfortable reality is a hard thing to do. It would be so much nicer to just float in a pool full of cheap flattery and call it a day.

But the truth is that the longer you swim around in lies and fake feel-good nonsense, the harder it is to come back from the Dark Side.

Eventually, the truth does come out.

So if you know that your relationship can only survive on a foundation of honesty, why is it so hard to be honest?

I think it’s because of how we (incorrectly) expect relationships to fix all our personal issues.

Feel insecure?

Get into a relationship! That’ll fix it!

NOT!

That mistake took me years to figure out.

What I eventually discovered is that our rabid hunger for a relationship is usually the biggest sign that you’ve got some inner holes that need filling.

If you need a relationship with another person that much – if the loneliness is THAT strong – it’s probably more about YOU and what you’re missing right now.

(News flash: You’ll still be missing it in the relationship, which is why this tactic never works!)

But no matter how much I say this, just about everyone on the planet will still figure that it’s the job of their partner to act in a way that doesn’t activate all their insecurities and inner weirdness.

In other words, we still keep blaming THEM.

For now, just keep in mind that honesty really is the best policy in a relationship. Those first few lies you tell might feel like you’re steadying the ship, but eventually, the storm of truth will sink your relationship like a tsunami…

Now, before I pull out another clever metaphor like that nautical one, let’s move on to:

Step 2: Drop The Dice!

If there’s one thing that will kill a relationship just as fast as dishonesty, it’s playing games.

No, I don’t mean Uno, or Monopoly.

I’m talking about the subtle manipulation we use in relationships to get what we want – to manipulate the power balance.

After all, game playing is just another form of dishonesty and lies.

The lie is this:

“If I don’t think I can get my needs met by asking for them, I will probably start being tricky and manipulative to get them met.”

And that’s how it starts.

There are many men and women that only feel that they can get their needs met in a relationship by using clever games to get them. Sometimes we discover that we just don’t know HOW to ask for them.

The first resolution is really big, though. You gotta make a commitment to …

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